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Or some months. Not sure if its just me but i feel like i went to sleep in May and woke up in September. The summer went by oh so fast and before i knew it – school was about to begin. Buh. Even though I am only taking two classes, the commute to SSU is a major pain in the ass. Oh and of course, the nonstop rain that has been lingering here for about two weeks has been making me even more the bitch so that’s always fun (more for Tommy than i, obviously) It even got to be a lovely 30 degrees this past Saturday. Yes, you read that correct. 30 degrees in October. Suhweet. However the cold didn’t stop me from heading out early Saturday morning to participate in the Boston Brain Tumor Walk:

Boston Brain Tumor Walk

It was such beautiful day – albeit bit of a chilly start – and the walk took us around Castle Island in Boston (on the water). The love felt at this event was inspiring and true. (A good friend of mine lost her brother so supporting her and ‘Team Todd’ made this day even more special)

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Anywho back to why I am sitting in front of the screen typing up a post…

I have been a reader of Tina Reale’s blog(s) for quite a while now and have seen raving reviews in regards to her Best Body Bootcamp program that she offers online.

Ever since I finished Jamie Eason’s Livefit Trainer, I have been in limbo at the gym. I am so the type of the person that finds it so much easier to follow a pre written plan of workouts. I think that is why I loved doing the trainer so much – I didn’t have to worry about what I was going to do at the gym each day.

I decided to get back on the ol’ blog train for a couple of reasons:

1. I actually miss being able to come to my teeny-tiny corner of the blog world bitch and complain about anything/everything.

2. I wanted to document my time and experiences while doing Best Body Bootcamp.

3. I need a place write down my wedding crap ideas.

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When most people meet Tommy and I for the first time, we can usually see their confused and curious looks on their faces straight away. We have a 16 year age difference between us. However, going by outside appearances alone, he doesn’t look like he is 43 but a bit younger. Tragically, this is canceled out by the fact that I don’t look like I am 27 but more 20. Give or take. In all honesty, anyone who knows us knows how amazing we are together. We truly have a solid, loving relationship and i can’t imagine my life without Tommy in it. As cliche as it sounds, he truly is my rock; and I truly believe we are soul-mates.

Of course, it can’t be all rainbows and smiles. Sometimes being with an older or younger siginificant other means that you have to deal with people and their judgemental opinions:

Top Misconceptions about our relationship:

1. Tommy must be a millionaire and I am only with him for his money. This one is the one that we get a good laugh about all the time. Sure, Tommy has a respectable job (a job that he works about 90 hours a week at) but he is by far Snoop-Dawg status. We live a comfortable life and do have blessings — but the kicker is that when I started dating him he was going through a nasty divorce and had just about nothing.

2. I must be the “young, hottie” that he will not take seriously, and of course, never marry. Well, the engagement thing threw these thinkers for a loop.

3. Since I don’t work, I must be living high off the hog. Yes, I don’t work but for good reason. Since Tommy and I just got enaged and I have been in school for the last 4 years, I was relying on financial aid to pay for school. Tommy and I did the math and if I had gotten a job and lost my aid, it would be less beneficial to us as a family.

4. Since Tommy has been married before and has two children – he won’t want to do either of those things with me. Well, the marriage thing we already touched upon. And honestly, Tommy has been amazing about our wedding. He has told me that because it is my first time, (and only time) getting married, I should have it all and it should be everything I want and more. He isn’t the slightest bit jaded from marriage (and tbh he should be with everything that his ex-wife did to him) and this fact is just one more reason why he is so amazing.

5. The final misconception about our relationship is that I am the ‘young, crazy’ one and he must go to bed at 8pm because he is older. We are the complete opposite of this stereotype. I can’t keep up with Tommy if I tried. When we go out to the club dancing, I am the one that turns into a pumpkin around 1:30 am. Tommy on the other hand, could easily go out all night long and never get tired. He has boundless energy and love for life and sometimes I wish I could be an energy sucker and get some of that shit for myself.

 

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Girl on Girl Hate

The other night I was channel surfing and came across the movie, Mean Girls. The movie depicts female, high school social cliques and the brutality and cattiness of the “mean” (aka popular) girls. The movie plot got me thinking about that cattiness that doesn’t end in high school but only just begins, and how women seem to be life-long members of cattiness club. Stupid movie as it may be, it got me thinking about why women are so catty towards each other…

Lately I am beginning to think that it is actually in our nature to be bitches. I mean, it has to be right? Women are the only creatures that instantaneously hate another woman without even knowing a thing about her — only judging her for how she looks and what she has.  I don’t think there is one woman out there who can claim that she has never made a snap fashion judgement to herself (“What is she wearing!) or worse said it out loud. I am included in this group so don’t think I am going all “high and mighty” here. Because I am not. I have definitely taken place in girl on girl hate before (especially in high school), and have only recently started to be more aware of these bitchy auto-thoughts. Perhaps it was four years ago, when a teenager entered my life and I saw how girls were through her eyes. Or maybe it is that I am just growing up. Regardless of the reason, I definitely make it point to be aware of the things I think and say; and therefore try to correct myself if I find myself drinking the haterade.

I had a nice dose of girl on girl hate a couple years back by my supposed close friends and more recently by a woman who I didn’t know from a hole in the wall at a bar a couple weekends ago. Since then I came up with my own list on why *I* think woman are catty (this is only my opinion so please take it with a grain of salt as I could be full of shit crap)

 

 

Why bitches be bitches:

1) Women are jealous. Plain and simple. They are so jealous of other women and what they have that they can barely stand themselves. This is where the cattiness comes in. To counteract the fact that they can’t stand themselves, they must try and bring other woman down to their level.

2) Women feel insecure about themselves; therefore make themselves feel better by believing others are more flawed than them. Envy monsters with low self-esteem like pointing out the flaws of others to lessen their feelings of inferiority; and increases false feelings of superiority. Women feel superior to other women if they believe they are physically more attractive.

3) Women are competitive. They compete with themselves and compete with other woman on every level possible (personal, societal etc). Envy monsters usually have a warped view of the world; and think that if a woman has something she envies and wants (mate, job, family, life) – her chances of getting that same thing are lessened. (you know, because the world is such a small and all)

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Like I said earlier, I am not preaching on a soap box by any means. I guess I just feel that the cattiness we are all too familiar with is unnecessary. I think that hating on anyone is just plain exhausting and not worth it to me. In this life, there is always going to be someone is who is prettier than me, skinnier, richer, has a better wardrobe etc and I am OK with that. Live and let live, right?

 

-Amy

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If you were to ask any one person if they are a good driver; they probably wouldn’t hesitate before answering yes. The truth of the matter is that the majority of people that are on the road (legally and illegally) absolutely suck at driving…

Top Annoying Things Bad Drivers Do:

1. The Cell Phone Driver

Now, I am not going to sit here and say that I have never talked on my cell phone while driving because that would be a lie. However, I have only done it when I actually needed to take the phone call, and then pulled over to continue my conversation. Those are the people I am talking about anyway. I am talking about the people that are constantly talking on their cell phones while driving. You will be next to them at a red light while they are talking away – then witness them hang up and make another phone call. Yea, those people. Of course, what kind of list would this be if I didn’t give a shout out to the text-messaging drivers. The ones that are so into texting that they swerve in and out of lanes, sit at green lights, and so forth. Love them.

2. The ‘Im too good’ Driver:

These drivers are real gems. They are the ones that never use a turn signal, drive way too fast, and swerve in and out of lanes on the highway. They obviously think they are too good to follow the rules that everybody has to follow.*also under this annoyance is the genius that leaves their blinker on foreverseems people can’t see that light blinking on their dashboard directly in front their face.

3. Slow in the Fast Lane Driver:

Wouldn’t the road be a wonderful place if we all worked together? Well, it’s not and we don’t. One of the most annoying things a driver can do is stay in the far left lane.. while going obnoxiously slow. Instead of passing the intended car, this driver will stay in the far left lane and just cause a major slow-up. Thanks, buddy.

4. The Parking Guru

We have all been there… searching for a parking spot at the mall or the grocery store and think we see one – that is until we get a closer look and realize the nice driver of the pretty little car felt it necessary to take up two parking spots. Whether the person’s bad parking job was intentional or not, this person still gets the jackass award.

5. The Nose Picker

Let me be perfectly clear about this: I have nothing against someone picking their nose… just as long as I DON’T HAVE TO SEE IT. There is seriously nothing more disgusting than pulling up to a fellow driver and notice that he is mid-mining operation and knuckle-deep in his own nose. It is gross. And there is nothing more annoying…

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Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a sarcastic person. I have even been granted the title of a ‘sarcasshole‘ from time to time.

Sarcasm is not telling someone they suck (that would be honesty). Having a comeback for everything said to you is also not sarcasm. For those who are new to earth would like a dose of wiki,

Sarcasm is defined as, “A cutting, often ironic, remark intended to wound. It is a form of wit that is marked by the use of sarcastic language and is intended to make its victim the butt of contempt or ridicule.” 

See, right off the bat this definition bothers me. Why? Because it makes anyone who uses sarcasm out to be complete bitch (or jerk) and that really just is not the case (at least with me)  First off, sarcasm has to be used correctly. Secondly, I use sarcasm unknowingly sometimes. If it wasn’t for the BF (who has so nicely pointed it out here and there), I wouldn’t even know I was so freaking sarcastic to begin with. It was one of these “instances” of sarcasm that got me thinking… Is sarcasm a good or bad thing? My answer: Both. To back up my claim, I wanted to write a list of some of the pro’s and con’s of sarcasm. Just to make sure I am not always being a shithead

 

*Disclaimer: this is only my personal on  my own use of sarcasm – There is a good chance I have no idea what I am talking about*

Pros of Using Sarcasm Correctly:

  • Can be ‘witty, intelligent, and cool’
  • It can be humorous
  • You have to actually have half a brain to use sarcasm
  • You have to be able to think and react quickly
  • If you are surrounded by smart people, people will get your jokes
  • When turned inwardly, sarcasm can make another feel better about being a tool
  • Sarcasm keeps me sane

Cons of Sarcasm (or sarcasm used incorrectly):

  • Can be used to make fun of a person and hurt his or her feelings
  • Can make someone the butt of a joke (sometimes unknowingly)
  • Sarcasm can make a situation worse
  • If you are surrounded by idiots, no one will get your jokes
  • It can be too harsh
  • Can get you in trouble
  • If used wrong can be unwitty, unintelligent, and lame.

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-Amy the Sarcasshole

Q. What is your opinion on sarcasm? Any pros or cons you would like to add to the list?

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Do you ever have those weeks days that you are more easily aggravated than other days? Well I do and for some reason this has been especially true for me, especially dealing with people. For some unknown reason, I’ve  just been fed up with people. Yup. People in general actually. People in the supermarket, people in line at the RedBox kiosk, a waitress or waiter, a fellow driver, or an obnoxious Facebook friend …  Just freaking people. You are probably wondering why I’m so annoyed with people right? Well, let me give you some examples of the awesome people I have run into lately:

The supermarket: where do I even begin? Oh, I know!  How about the woman that nearly ran her cart into me…twice. Then there are the lovely cell phone talkers who seem to deem it necessary to talk or text on their cell phones DIRECTLY IN THE MIDDLE OF THE AISLE. or how about the 85 year old deli dude (bless his heart) who handed me pound of cheese in four, yes FOUR different bags each a 1/4 big (a pound of cheese took him about 15 minutes to slice. No JOKE. And of course I can’t forget the crazy coupon nightmare that just had to ring in about 20 of her items separately so she could save a total of 25 cents. If it would’ve saved me from wasting 45 minutes of my time I would’ve gladly given her a whole dollar – a 75 cent profit!

The RedBox Kiosk: every freaking time I am at the RedBox kiosk trying to rent a movie or two, I always have a gem get right in line behind me straight away. And of course, every time its that person that stands so close to you that they are practically in your back pocket. They stand there, clearly invading my personal space, and even have the nerve to give off a sigh or two if I take more than 2 minutes… Dude, first of all how about backing up a few feet so I don’t have you breathing down my neck. Secondly, how am I supposed to pick a good movie if you’re freakin rushing me?
I think RedBox should put out one of those “stand here until available” signs to guide people in line etiquette. #justsaying

Restaurants: this one is a two-parter – double the fun!
Part 1 – I have worked in the food service industry at a few different restaurants so I know how difficult it can be sometimes. Any job that deals with the public is shit. That said, what the @$#% do I have to do to get a glass of water? Seriously? I swear I asked our server the other night at least 8 times for a glass of water. At least. And this shit happens all the damn time. I just don’t understand. I could understand if I didn’t order it, but water is the first thing I order every. time.
And speaking of going out to eat… I am convinced that Tommy and I have ‘worst waiter ever’ curse. Pretty sure because it seems like whenever we go out, we just have the absolute worst waiter/waitress ever. You know the type: wrong order, is great at the dissapearing act etc…

The facebook friend you can’t delete because you will look like an ass: Now, I know I just bitched about Facebook the other day but I just had to clarify this: See, it isn’t the actual Facebook that annoys me, it is the people that use it! And I am sure you are saying to yourself “well, why not just unfriend them?” Come on, we all know it sometimes isn’t that easy. I am sure I am not the only one out there who has “friends” on the book that take annoying to a whole new level but they are the type of facebook friend that if you delete them, they will know and you will look like an ass. Whether it is a co-worker, childhood friend, or even a family memeber for petes sake — you just can’t give them the old defriend. So, again — not Facebook… people abusing facebook!

Are people in life getting more and more annoying? Or is it me…

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The ABC’s of Me…

SoI am a complete sucker for surveys (hello myspace and Facebook) and I figured what better way than to waste precious time than something as dumb as a survey:

abc

A. Age: 27
B. Bed size: King, but soon to be Queen because we moved into a smaller and are just putting off the inevitable.
C. Chore you dislike: Um, all of them?
D. Dogs: Negative Ghostwriter.
E. Essential start to your day: Coffee. I am a complete coffee addict – openly of course.
F. Favorite color:  I really like gray/black combo and of course, PINK.
G. Gold or silver:  Silver. I feel like it goes with my skin tone better. and its cheaper than gold
H. Height:  5’4.5. Yes, the half an inch matters.
I. Instruments you play(ed):  Piano for like a minute in grade school.
J. Job title: Titles are over-rated!
K. Kids: The fiance has two kids – however only his daughter lives with us – so one
L. Live: In Boston, MA.
M. Mom’s name:  Alice.
N. Nicknames: (Ames, Pach)
O. Overnight hospital stays:  Only one. My gallbladder exploded on XMAS even two years ago. Fun times.
P. Pet peeves:  See previous Wah, Wah, Wah post!
Q. Quote from a movie: “Hey, there were skittles in there!” –The Hangover
R. Righty or lefty:  Righty.
S. Siblings:  1 bro, 2 step, and 1 half bro =)
T. Time you wake up:  Depends on the day.. but I am for sure a  night person. I do my best cleaning at 2:30 AM.
U. Underwear: Moving on  :D
V. Vegetables you dont’ like:  I absolutely, positively despise tomatoes. Ew. Yuck.
W. What makes you run late:  I never can pinpoint what it is exactly but I am rarely on time.. I am either super early or late.
X. X-rays you’ve had:  Chest (asthma) Abdomen (Gallbladder)
Y. Yummy food you make:  I can make exactly one dish: homemade mac and cheese.
Z. Zoo animal favorites: This one is a toss up: those itty bitty monkeys and tigers!

-Till next time…

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