Archive for May, 2012

When most people meet Tommy and I for the first time, we can usually see their confused and curious looks on their faces straight away. We have a 16 year age difference between us. However, going by outside appearances alone, he doesn’t look like he is 43 but a bit younger. Tragically, this is canceled out by the fact that I don’t look like I am 27 but more 20. Give or take. In all honesty, anyone who knows us knows how amazing we are together. We truly have a solid, loving relationship and i can’t imagine my life without Tommy in it. As cliche as it sounds, he truly is my rock; and I truly believe we are soul-mates.

Of course, it can’t be all rainbows and smiles. Sometimes being with an older or younger siginificant other means that you have to deal with people and their judgemental opinions:

Top Misconceptions about our relationship:

1. Tommy must be a millionaire and I am only with him for his money. This one is the one that we get a good laugh about all the time. Sure, Tommy has a respectable job (a job that he works about 90 hours a week at) but he is by far Snoop-Dawg status. We live a comfortable life and do have blessings — but the kicker is that when I started dating him he was going through a nasty divorce and had just about nothing.

2. I must be the “young, hottie” that he will not take seriously, and of course, never marry. Well, the engagement thing threw these thinkers for a loop.

3. Since I don’t work, I must be living high off the hog. Yes, I don’t work but for good reason. Since Tommy and I just got enaged and I have been in school for the last 4 years, I was relying on financial aid to pay for school. Tommy and I did the math and if I had gotten a job and lost my aid, it would be less beneficial to us as a family.

4. Since Tommy has been married before and has two children – he won’t want to do either of those things with me. Well, the marriage thing we already touched upon. And honestly, Tommy has been amazing about our wedding. He has told me that because it is my first time, (and only time) getting married, I should have it all and it should be everything I want and more. He isn’t the slightest bit jaded from marriage (and tbh he should be with everything that his ex-wife did to him) and this fact is just one more reason why he is so amazing.

5. The final misconception about our relationship is that I am the ‘young, crazy’ one and he must go to bed at 8pm because he is older. We are the complete opposite of this stereotype. I can’t keep up with Tommy if I tried. When we go out to the club dancing, I am the one that turns into a pumpkin around 1:30 am. Tommy on the other hand, could easily go out all night long and never get tired. He has boundless energy and love for life and sometimes I wish I could be an energy sucker and get some of that shit for myself.


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Summer is by far my favorite time of year. Unlike most New Englanders, I actually LOVE the humidity and the 95 degree days. When Summer actually starts here in the Bean is up for debate. By the end of April, most of us are so miserable due to the winter that we usually ‘pretend’ the weather is summer-like. That is when things get sketchy: girls in booty shorts, flip flops worn in 50 degree weather, guys in cut off jean shorts circa 1990. You get the idea. And I would love to be able to say that things get better here as the real summer weather approaches, but it doesn’t. It just gets worse…

Shit that’s Annoying about People in the Summer:

1. Big Sunglasses

I am all for rocking out a pair of nice sunglasses, especially during the summer. A good pair of sunglasses can you from feeling drab to fab in minutes. That being said, sunglasses are just like any other thing you were: they need to ‘fit’ you. Sadly, a whole lot of people missed the memo on this one (men included) and both sexes are wearing some big-ass sunglasses this summer. Some of the sunglasses I have seen are absolutely, positively too big and look, well..  dumb. My feeling is that if your sunglasses literally take up half of your face, you may want to consider getting a smaller pair. Unless you have something to hide…

2.  Tanning

This has to split in two because it just that serious, clearly (thanks Jersey Shore)

Sunless Tanning:

I understand the spray tanning phenomenon, I really do. People are flocking to spray tanning salons because they aren’t really feeling the whole skin cancer thing. That’s cool. What is not cool, however, is all the people walking around looking like they just rolled around in a bag of Doritos. This whole “I am orange and my face and body look dirty” look I am just not understanding…

Extreme Tanning:

Personally, I like a summer glow. I don’t like walking around completely pale, and with a SPF 30 I can still get that summer glow without looking like a complete leather-face. However, I draw the line at those who spend their entire ‘tanning’. It is like the Snooki wanna-be’s are taking over the world..

I also don’t understand those that people I see at the pool and beach who are completely sunburned from head to toe (and still out in the sun) These smarty pants must the people that completely convince themselves that they are brown when they really are red… You know who I am talking about; everyone knows one.

3.  Unnecessary Skin Showing

Summer = warmer weather = less clothing. I get it. I really do. This is more about those that deem it necessary to walk around with their ass hanging out of their shorts/skirts. Or better yet, think I want to see them walking around in public in their two-sizes-too-small swim suit on (and nothing else) Please don’t get me wrong, I am all for embracing our bodies and rocking what our mama’s gave us but on the other side of that, I also feel it is important to know what works for us and what doesn’t and think that we should keep our bodies sacred and not walk around with everything hanging out all over the place…

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